Argh! Just because a baby is not wearing pink does not mean she’s a BOY!

I don’t know why this bothers me so much, but I just plumb do not like it when my baby is called a “boy.”

Now, I do clothe my daughter in a lot more pink that I thought I would, before she was born.  (I just got a charming pale pink chenille jacket that is tied with a translucent, shimmery pink ribbon that I can’t wait for her to wear.  😀 )  However, it seems that every time she’s NOT in pink, she gets called a boy.

She was wearing this top yesterday, at church:
Audrey Sophie in the back of the 'Burban

It’s olive green, edged in brighter green, with a colorful, appliqued, stylized flower on the front.  (It, along with the jeans she is wearing in the above photo, was a gift from my friend Lori, who has known me since we were both in the nursery at church, as babies ourselves.  She so knows me!!!)  Yesterday, Audrey was wearing this top with a flouncy denim SKIRT, and white socks that had olive and PINK flowers on them.  Three times, she got called a boy as my husband was holding her. 

Maybe it’s because she’s bald, combined with the fact that she wasn’t wearing pink…  and I know I’m biased as a mom, but I do not think she looks the slightest bit boyish.  I *HAVE* three boys.  I know what boys look like.  She is NOT a boy.  Grrr.

About Karen Joy

I'm a partially-homeschooling mother of six -- 3 boys ages 19, 17 and 15 years old, and three girls: 11, 8, and 3. I like birding, reading, writing, organic gardening, singing, playing guitar, hiking, the outdoors, and books. I very casually lead a very large group of homeschooling families in the Phoenix area. I have a dear hubby who designs homes for a local home builder and who is the worship pastor of our church. I live in the desert, which I used to hate, but now appreciate.

Posted on October 30, 2006, in Friendships, The Kids. Bookmark the permalink. 8 Comments.

  1. it’s the hair. I’m almost certain. If she was a he dressed like that and had a big head of curly hair they’d be saying, “Oh, what a cute little girl.” I went through this with my oldest. Never dressed him like a girl and he had a ton of hair. But my sister’s daughter was bald. She always dressed her in pink to make sure there was no mistake. Sure enough, she heard no end of, “Oh, what a cute little boy.” People are strange.

    Thanks for stopping by my blog. I swear your blog name sounds so familiar. Have I been here before? This is gonna bug my cold-riddled, pregnant brain all night. 😉

  2. We had the same thing with our girls – all 6 of them were pretty (one still is) bald-ish. People always called them “he” – even when they were wearing obviously feminine things….like tops with flowers and skirts. ; )

  3. AND – you’re right, she doesn’t look like a boy – she’s adorably feminine!!! Smooch those sweet little fat cheeks on my behalf, would you??

  4. Thank you, ladies. It’s the hair. I talked to another mom who has the same problem w/ her daughter. She even got her dd’s ears pierced and the little girl still gets called a boy. Oh, well.

    And Dawn, you have six girls? Wow. I know another family with six girls… They’re almost all grown up, now. They’re one of the most beautiful families I have ever seen. Blessings to you & your bunch!

  5. She’s lovely. What a beautiful baby!

    I have the opposite problem. My *very* masculine-looking baby boy is always being called a girl. He’s huge, heavily built, has thick eyebrows, and is almost always dressed in blue. Yet I always get: “A girl, is it?!”

    On the other hand, my friend takes her little girl out dressed in a lace hat, blouses, trousers appliqued with flowers etc and is constantly asked: “How old is he?”

    Another friend had her very boyish baby boy in a sling and someone asked her: “What’s her name?” My friend answered: “Erm… her name’s Danny,” and the person said: “Isn’t she cute?”

  6. Looks like a cute little girl to me! But then, we’re used to dudelet – even now – being called a girl. On the other hand, given a choice, he’ll invariably gravitate to pink. With him, it’s definitely the hair – red, longish, wavy and identical to his mother’s when she was younger. Combine it with blue eyes and people constantly jump to conclusions.

  7. Helen ~ People think your Kiko is a girl???? On your site, from the pics I’ve seen, he’s very… square. Very stout. After having three boys with their square hands, I couldn’t get over looking at Audrey’s non-square palms. 🙂

    (u)r.d. ~ Must be the hair… I have a friend whose oldest is now 12, but when he was younger, she just couldn’t bear to cut his red, wavy hair, so he got called a girl all the time, too.

  8. Rubber Chicken Girl

    Olive green is a hard color to pull off w/o hair! People say “BOY” even when girls wear pink, darnit. Then you want to ask for an IQ test or something. I mean, braclelets, headbands AND pink, I’ve still had HE happen. Anyway….so if they get it wrong WITH pink and frills, they WILL get it wrong way more often in a more neutral looking get-up. People probably couldn’t see that the denim part was a skirt or maybe the flowers was kind hidden in folds of fabric. I dunno!!

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