SAHMs unite for legitimacy!!

I LOVE this post by Tammy.

Truly, I feel very blessed, very pleased to do what I do — stay at home full time and homeschool my four children, and I rarely feel, nowadays, like I have to justify my existence.Β  However, I’ve often been in a setting where I know that my job is not viewed as “legitimate” by the person who has just asked me the question, “So, what do you do??”Β  It drives me nuts that American society holds a dim view of mothers who don’t have a “real” job.


About Karen Joy

I'm a partially-homeschooling mother of six -- 3 boys ages 19, 17 and 15 years old, and three girls: 11, 8, and 3. I like birding, reading, writing, organic gardening, singing, playing guitar, hiking, the outdoors, and books. I very casually lead a very large group of homeschooling families in the Phoenix area. I have a dear hubby who designs homes for a local home builder and who is the worship pastor of our church. I live in the desert, which I used to hate, but now appreciate.

Posted on June 29, 2007, in Homeschooling, Introspective Musings, Motherhood, Parenting, The Kids. Bookmark the permalink. 5 Comments.

  1. That “what do you do?” question can get toxic at times, can’t it? I’ve invented several variations on it that get more interesting answers– How do you spend your days? What kind of stuff do you get to do on your favorite day of the week? How close does your current job fit with your dream job?

  2. The reply, “I wipe tushies” evokes a priceless reaction in the “So what do you do?” people. πŸ˜‰ But I’m always with my kids, so the question doesn’t often get asked of me. It’s quite obvious, with baby puke on my shoulder, what I do.

  3. Rubber Chicken Girl

    I tell my dh that I’m a Wiper…..b*tts, noses, counters, dusty things, slimy door knobs, you name it. Not illustrious but someone’s gotta do it!

  4. collectionofmemories

    I agree, if I said that I ran a daycare I would get gushy responses like, “Oh you must be great with children” or “You must have very busy days.” or other such nonsense. But those same people look at you as if you do nothing if you say that you are a stay at home mom. (or worse “just a mom”). Why is it more credible to care for children for profit than out of love?

  5. Erin ~ I like all of your questions. I would happily answer any of them w/o feeling like there was something deprecating behind the question. Not that you would do that to me… I don’t feel like that w/ you anyways. πŸ™‚

    Anonymom ~ Since you have an avatar (which is lovely!), you have a blog here on wordpress, right?? Is this you? I’ll bet it is… I just subscribed to your blog. πŸ™‚

    RCG ~ Add “baker extrordinaire” or “cookbook writer” to the whole “wiper” thing, and maybe you’ll have some status!! πŸ˜‰ πŸ˜‰ πŸ˜‰

    CoM ~ Ah ha!! I found you, too!! Subscribed to you, now, too!! Good point, too, that caring for children out of love should be more credible than doing it for profit.

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