What I’ve been doing in the last week (pregnancy news/doctor frustration)
Last Wednesday, a week ago, I had a prenatal visit with my OB. I told him about a seemingly minor problem I’m having, that was more of an annoyance than anything. I wasn’t really happy with his reply, so I turned to the expert group of moms on a homeschooling forum I’ve participated in, in the past. Many of them are practicing nurses, and many of them have, well, had a lot of babies.
Long story short, it turns out that my “annoyance” apparently has roots in something more serious, and it ups my risk of bleeding while in labor and delivery, and for potential long-term problems after the baby is born. I’m still in the information-gathering stage, and honestly, it’s been hard to get info, because what I have is quite uncommon. I’m trying to figure out if this will increase the possibility of me needing a cesarean section or something like that, and so far, I haven’t received any really good answers. It seems that all the information on my situation is “anecdotal,” meaning that since no major studies have been done, no one seems to know for sure.
ETA: I’ve been doing some careful looking online — ACK!! gotta be careful what terms one types into Google — and the only agreement seems to be that there is no agreement on the risk and treatment, neither between doctors nor midwives. I’ve seen anything from a footnoted textbook source saying “rupture… and fatal hemmorage… is not unknown” to “it will resolve after birth, no treatment required.”
My OB doesn’t seem to care, which is really bothering me. His attitude has been kind of like, “Well, you’re not likely to die from a hemmorage.” In other words, in his book, since I’ll live, it’s not that big of a deal.
The reason I switched to him after my old OB retired is because he was the one who actually delivered Audrey, and it was a fantastic experience. He used to be in practice with my “old” OB, and I met with him once before Audrey was born, “just in case” he was the doc on call when I went into labor. He was. And, he remembered everything we had talked about, which was basically to produce a non-invasive, gentle, med-free birth with minimal pushing, and no trauma to myself. That’s what I ended up with, and I was as pleased as punch.
But, now that he’s actually my doctor, it seems like he really doesn’t care about avoiding all the medical interference that, in the past, with four babies now, I’ve been able to avoid… I don’t want a c-section. I don’t want to be induced, and I don’t care how “late” I am*. I don’t even want my water broken. I don’t want meds. I don’t want to be hovered over and pressured by doctors or nurses. And, I want minimal trauma to myself, too.
And his attitude now is, “Well, if the baby comes out healthy, then it’s all OK.”
Well, it’s not all OK with me!! I know that boatloads of women have had and recovered fine from a c-section, but really, I’d like to avoid major surgery. But, neither do I want to bleed excessively and have physical trauma that’s difficult to recover from, simply because I don’t want a c-section. Does that make sense?
So… if you could pray for me, that would be fabulous. I want to be able to find out more, and better information. I want to be safe and healthy. I’d really like to be able to deliver this baby girl similarly to how I delivered my other four children. And, I don’t want to be in fear, no matter what happens.
Thank you, friends.
* In semi-related news, I had to twist his arm to get him to move my due date BACK to its original date of October 22, which was based on my LMP. After my first ultrasound, he moved it up to October 10, because the baby appeared to be further along than my dates would indicate. But with the second u/s I had, it indicated an EDD of October 20. He wasn’t going to change it. His attitude was, “Well, the earlier ultrasounds are usually more accurate.” But, my contention was, “I don’t want it to get to October 12, 14, 16 and you’re pressuring me to induce, when the baby’s not ready — and never was ready — to come out until the 20th or 22nd or 24th!” His reply? “Well, inducing isn’t that big of a deal. The latest stats are that up to 75% of deliveries are now induced.” LIKE THAT’S A GOOD THING????? LIKE THAT’S OK??? I told him, “Well, if you induce, that means pitocin. If I have pitocin, that means I will need pain meds. And, if I am induced and go on pain meds, that will increase my chances of ending up with a c-section. I don’t want pain meds. I don’t want a c-section. I want a natural birth, like I’ve had for all four of my other children.” He said, “Well… I don’t know if inducing leads to a higher rate of c-sections [IT DOES], but you would certainly need pain meds.” After I walked him through my own file, to show him that October 22 is a reasonable EDD, he semi-begrudgingly changed it. 👿