My son notices a girl, an update on Fiala’s skin, Hubby and I fight, and I learn more about my heart

  • I must say that I am totally thrown for a loop that it is my youngest son — not quite eight years old — who has a) noticed a girl (he’s liked her “forever,” i.e., since preschool); and b) cares what clothes he wears.  The girl is darling, one could hardly blame him.  And, I find myself impressed at his plan of action:  “I try to get her attention by helping her, and trying to start conversation.  Seth is my rival [yes, he said that], and he tries to get her attention by being crazy, and I don’t think she likes that.”  However, it seems surreal to be having girl conversations with my seven year old son.  And, only in the last year did I stop picking out my now-12yo son’s outfit for the day;  both my older two sons couldn’t care less about clothing.  Yet, Wes is extremely particular, though for very boyish reasons, proclaiming that a striped yellow tee shirt I purchased for him, “looks like pee-yellow.”
  • Fiala’s skin is improving, as is her digestion.  This is probably TMI for 90% of you, but over the last couple of days, has had her first fully-formed stools of her life.  I called the allergist’s office;  they’re still waiting on the results of the RAST testing, but I have definitely seen an improvement by excluding soy, milk, and now potato and tomato.  The other things that she tested allergic to… well, I’m just not so certain that they’re truly problematic.  We’ll see.  Her skin is still only about 40% improved, which is GREAT, but when I’m eager for her to be fully HEALED, 40% is unsatisfying.
  • Martin and I had a fight yesterday.  The last time we had a fight was a good six months ago.  Two fights a year might be acceptable, sort of, especially when we used to fight daily, or nearly so, earlier in our marriage.  We have resolved it, and all is peaceful, except the lingering yucky feeling that remains from fighting, even when all is forgiven.  😦
  • It appears I have mitral valve prolapse.  I heard the “click click click” during the echocardiogram I had on Wednesday, and saw the swirled red-and-blue where no swirling should be.  However, I have yet to hear back from my doctor.  😦  That explains fatigue (seems like “fatigue” is from many sources, though), weird, tight chest pain that sometimes extends sharply into my upper right arm, and dizzy spells.  I don’t know if having MVP means I don’t have WPW, or what.  My doctor theorized, based on my electrocardiogram, that I had WFW, and from what I understood, we were doing the echo to rule out his second-best guess, MVP.  I am also wearing a 30 day “event recorder,” which is an itchy, stupid pain in the patooty, and seems superfluous to me.  Although there is an oddly relieving sense of, “Ah, so that’s what it is!” and even though I’m happy that the things going on in my heart are not altogether serious, quite common, and not necessary to medicate, I’m still not very happy to have things wrong with my heart.  Neither is my husband.  He’s rather freaked out by the whole thing.

About Karen Joy

I'm a partially-homeschooling mother of six -- 3 boys ages 19, 17 and 15 years old, and three girls: 11, 8, and 3. I like birding, reading, writing, organic gardening, singing, playing guitar, hiking, the outdoors, and books. I very casually lead a very large group of homeschooling families in the Phoenix area. I have a dear hubby who designs homes for a local home builder and who is the worship pastor of our church. I live in the desert, which I used to hate, but now appreciate.

Posted on July 24, 2009, in Allergies, Babies, Digestive Woes, Family, Marriage, Medical Stuff, Motherhood, The Dear Hubby, The Kids. Bookmark the permalink. 7 Comments.

  1. I am so glad that her skin is doing better. You amaze me in your research and such. You are such an awesome mom!

    So we just a girl thing with my 12yo. A 17 yo girl told monkey how cute he was. she nearly choked to death on her coke when she found out he was 12. i am not sure how to proceed from here. we haven’t nailed down exactly how we want to handle the whole dating thing. courting vs. dating.

    my 4 yo is VERY picky about his clothes too. and has been since he was about 2. strange that Brown Bear isn’t. still has to be reminded to take a shower.

    I agree with the fighting. I feel uneasy for about 2 days after. Kinda have to restore the fellowship.

    • We haven’t nailed down dating vs. courting, either. My husband actually went through a courtship process BEFORE me, and it didn’t work out. He recovered just fine, but the girl never did (she mentions it to me occasionally, though not as often as she used to… she’s still not married!). So, even when courtship is entered with the best and most noble intentions, and handled maturely along each step, it’s not perfect, nor w/o fallout. 😦

      Plus, with the sweet and innocent heart of my 7yo — truly — I just can’t help but think that it is good practice for him to be upstanding with his “sweetie” and learn how to treat girls with respect and kindness, instead of simply saying, “You’re way too young for that.” For instance, he’s always asking me about different ways he can help her, and I suggest things like holding open the door for her when he has the chance, etc. And, I have told him not to tell her that he likes her, and NOT to chase her on the playground, and so on. Even though this might not fall in the courtship model 😉 it just seems wise to train him up from an early age. Know what I mean??

      When I tell my kids to hop in the shower, they STILL ask, “Why?” 😕

      Yes, “restore the fellowship” — that’s a good phrase.

  2. I’m very pro arranged marriage! 🙂 I have a 5 year old girl, 3 year old boy, 1 1/2 year old boy and a 9 month old boy. Any one interested in making some arrangements! 🙂

    Ask my 5 year old who gets to pick her husband…Mommy.

    I’m not telling them that their dad and I met on a blind date and married in 6 months! Nosiree!

  3. Eek! Hope it’s getting fixed. I’ve worn something similar to do with early exploration of hypertension. Very embarrassing when it went off during quiet moments in meetings.

    Dudelet also has a sweetheart he utterly dotes over – so sweet at that age.

  4. Hi there
    I wondered if you had tried adding a fish oil supplement to Fiala’s diet ? My sister’s daughter had the most horrific ezcema I have ever seen – they said she would scar for the rest of her life. And my sister started supplementing with several things – and although the fish took a good couple of months to make a “noticable” difference – my niece now has the most beautiful skin. Not one scar remains on her little body. Truly amazing….just a thought – Stephanie

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