Have you ever dissuaded someone from homeschooling?
I built up a head of steam yesterday.
Perhaps it was a bit misplaced.
I still haven’t decided.
The shortish version is that I read a blog post from someone — we’ll call her Rosie — who was “inspired” by the blog post of another blogger — we’ll call her Patience. Patience’s post had sung the praises of the benefits of homeschooling, and had said, in essence, that every family would benefit from it. In Rosie’s response, she took each of Patience’s numbered points, and rewrote and dismantled them, supplying her own life as a better example, which was, in short, homeschooling for the younger years, and public/charter schooling for the older years.
I didn’t entirely disagree with most of Rosie’s suggestions. I was, though, aghast that she would publicly take a specific blogger — a friend, no less — to task. And, that she would say, in essence, “I have learned much better, grasshopper. Mine is the more excellent way.” Though Patience responded and didn’t seem miffed, I couldn’t help but feel for her. I would be horrified if someone I had known personally had done that to me.
One thing, though, about which I did completely agree with Rosie, was that homeschooling is not for everyone. I have steered an inquiring mother in another direction, on more than one occasion. One, which made me giggle at the memory, was from a mother who
- said she had zero budget for homeschooling
- balked at my suggestion that she go to a library: “I don’t think I’ve ever been to a library.”
- didn’t have a clear reason about why she wanted to homeschool
- did not have the support of her husband
- did not research or follow up on any of the material I gave her, over a couple months’ period
What it came down to was that this mother wanted:
- ME or some government entity to supply her with an entire curriculum (she didn’t want to participate with one of the assorted charter “homeschooling” programs, where the school provides the curriculum, and often a computer, and then checks up on the student, like Arizona Virtual Academy or Connections Academy).
- ME to tell her husband that she should homeschool. She figured that, as I have a (small) leadership role in the church, I’d outweigh his authority on the matter.
Her audacity made my jaw drop. I declined to help on either count, and never heard from her again.
Now, the story makes me giggle.
Do you have any similar stories?? Or, do you, too think that homeschooling is for everyone? (I won’t rip you apart if you do!)
EDITED TO ADD: Names have been changed to protect the parties involved, of course. “Rosie” has only very rarely ever been to my blog, and I don’t believe “Patience” ever has. I don’t think it likely that either will ever see this post. And, even if they do, no one would ever know it’s them, unless they out themselves in a comment, or something like that. So, I think the dignity of the bloggers is protected.